Mobility Changes Retirement
Dear Tacit,
I am supposed to be at the stage of life where I get to enjoy my retirement years and the freedom it brings. But my mobility is bad and this limits me in so many ways – the depression is creeping in. Help!
Signed: Mobility Changes Retirement
Dear Mobility Changes Retirement,
I hear you—this is a tough adjustment, especially when your expectations for this stage of life don’t match your reality. It makes sense that you are feeling down about it. But even with limitations, there are still ways to find joy, fulfillment, and purpose.
Acknowledge the grief that you are feeling. It’s okay to mourn the loss of the mobility and freedom you expected. You have worked hard to reach retirement, and it’s frustrating to feel held back. Give yourself space to feel that – without guilt.
Focus on what you can do instead of dwelling on what’s not possible. Shift the focus to what still is. What activities still bring you joy? Even if they look different now, finding new ways to engage with hobbies, social life, or travel (virtually or with assistance) can help.
Keep moving in any way that you can. Even small movements can help both physically and mentally. Chair exercises, water therapy, or stretches tailored to your abilities can boost endorphins and help you feel more in control of your body. Seek support through professionals who can teach you ways to help your body maximize it’s potential – like acupuncturists, chiropractors, massage therapists, etc.
Advocate for your needs with your doctor, to see if there are any options that might help address your physical limitations. I know how hard this can be as many medical professionals tend to disregard mobility concerns as we age. But you have a right to a good quality life, at every age – so keep pushing for answers that help. And don’t hesitate to use whatever is suggested (sometimes we delay using the supports that might help prevent our mobility from getting worse because we are being stubborn)!
Find purpose beyond your physical abilities. Your value and purpose aren’t tied to mobility. Can you mentor someone? Write? Share wisdom? Volunteer remotely? Finding a meaningful outlet can shift your perspective.
Stay social, even if it looks different now. Depression thrives in isolation. Whether through phone calls, video chats, or small in-person gatherings, staying connected can help prevent the downward spiral.
Seek professional support if it is needed. Depression is real, and you don’t have to fight it alone. A therapist or a support group for those dealing with mobility issues can help.
Redefine your concept of freedom. Maybe physical freedom looks different now, but emotional and mental freedom are still within reach. What does a fulfilling day look like within your current reality? Start small and build from there.
Take Care!
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